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Domestic Violence

The Extent of the Problem and Who is Affected

The US Department of Justice estimates that one in three American women will experience intimate partner violence at some point in their lifetime.

In Massachusetts, it is estimated that more than 43,000 children have witnessed or been the victims of domestic abuse, and of these children, 65% are under the age of 8. In 1996, the Governor's Commission on Domestic Violence Children's Working Group reported that from 60% to 75% of children living in families where there is domestic violence have been abused themselves.

Domestic Violence affects people in every community the world over, regardless of: age, race, religion, ethnicity, national origin, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, education, or socio-economic status.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors in which an individual tries to control the thoughts, beliefs, or actions of an intimate partner (or person with whom s/he has significant relationship). It can include, but is not limited to, any or all of the following forms of abuse: physical, sexual, verbal, psychological/ emotional, and financial.

The Massachusetts Department of Public Health defines domestic violence as:

"Behavior which physically harms, arouses fear, or prevents a victim from doing what he/she wishes. It is the intent of the abusive behavior to undermine the will of the victim and to substitute the will of the perpetrator for the will of the victim. Perpetrators batter victims to achieve and maintain power over their victims."

Abuse in an intimate relationship tends to get worse over time. It is an extremely serious problem, which can escalate to the point of serious injury and even murder.

If you or someone you know is being abused, please seek assistance!

You are not alone.

Call our 24-hour hotline for help: 617-661-7203

Warning Signs of Domestic and Dating Violence

Do you think you, your friend, family member, or co-worker may be in a violent relationship, but you're not sure?

Here are some indications of an abusive relationship:

Does the abusive partner...

  • Act jealous and possessive?
  • Seem controlling or scary?
  • Constantly check up on his/her partner?
  • Try to control his/her partner?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Give orders?
  • Use threats?
  • Own weapons - handle or clean them during disagreements?
  • Pressure his/her partner for sex?
  • Treat his/her partner like a sex object?
  • Not let his/her partner have friends?
  • Not take his/her partner seriously?
  • Say things like, "If you really loved me you would ..."?
  • Abuse drugs or alcohol and pressure his/her partner to do the same?
  • Blame his/her partner for any abuse that occurs?
  • Tell his/her partner what to wear?
  • Threaten to spread rumors about his/her partner?
  • Threaten to slap, hurt or hit his/her partner?
  • Threaten to harm him/herself as a result of his/her partner's behavior?
  • Accuse his/her partner of flirting or cheating?
  • Have sudden, inexplicable changes in attitude towards his/her partner (i.e. from extreme anger to tremendous sweetness)?

Does your friend, co-worker, or family member...

  • Seem quiet when her/his partner is around and seems afraid of making him/her angry?
  • Become more and more isolated from family and friends?
  • Often have unexplained injuries, or does s/he offer explanations that don't seem to add up?
  • Casually mention her/his partner's violent behavior but then also dismiss the behavior as, "not a big deal"?
  • Often cancel plans at the last minute?
  • Have children who are frequently upset or very quiet and withdrawn and won't say why?

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Domestic Violence Internet Links

Statewide Domestic Violence Information and Programs
www.janedoe.org

National Information and Resources on Domestic Violence
www.fvpf.org
www.mincava.umn.edu
www.vawnet.org
www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo


Legal
www.clsacc.org (local)
www.womenslaw.org (nationwide)

Sexual Assault
www.barcc.org
www.rainn.org

Elder Abuse
www.elderabusecenter.org

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Domestic Violence Information and Resources
www.thenetworklared.org
www.gmdvp.org
www.fenwayhealth.org/services/violence.htm

National Latino Alliance for the Elimination of Domestic Violence
www.dvalianza.org/about.htm

Institute on Domestic Violence in the African American Community
www.dvinstitute.org

Asian Task Force against Domestic Violence
www.atask.org

Domestic Violence and Religion
www.cpsdv.org

Local support groups
www.cambridgewomenscenter.org

 

Teen Dating Violence

Dating Violence Intervention Program

Program Director: Julie Kahn, LICSW
Email: dvip@transitionhouse.org
DVIP Phone: 617-868-1650

DVIP History

Established in 1986, as the first program of its kind to introduce the issues of domestic and dating violence to youth in Massachusetts's schools, the Dating Violence Intervention Program (DVIP) has become one of the most successful violence prevention programs in greater Boston.

The DVIP continues to provide an extensive curriculum-based program for the prevention and intervention of relationship violence among adolescents.

The program also includes individual clinical counseling that provides young people with concrete tools to help them break the cycle of teen domestic violence and reduce its long-term harms.

DVIP Information for Providers

DVIP Information for Teens and Youth